5 mantras that help me through those challenging days…..

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1. This too shall pass

….unless you are a parent, in which case you can stop reading because, put simply,….

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Only kidding, I couldn’t resist that!

I try to remember that every day, good or bad, presents us with a chance to learn. Even if it hasn’t been the best of days, you can try and take something from it that will help to make the future better. I also find great comfort in the fact that, however bad today might seem, tomorrow is a brand new day that offers a whole new start. Just because today wasn’t great, doesn’t mean that tomorrow won’t be a good day!

2. Rome wasn’t built in a day

Before I had children I was always busy and finding the time to get chores done was difficult. Now, with kids thrown in to the mix, it often feels impossible and can get me down. I am referring to things like those annoying household jobs (clearing out the fridge, cleaning the windows, getting through that pile of ironing etc.). Though I am a person who likes to see a job through from start to finish, I am finally accepting that – especially as a parent! – I have to make do with a little time here and there to get these things done. What I mean by this is that I have to be happy with breaking a job down into smaller parts and grabbing 10 minutes here and 5 there to complete it. Yes this also means that I pretty much constantly have a variety of yet-to-be-finished tasks on the go but I have realised that this is still better than not getting them done at all.

3. Pick your battles wisely

Is it really worth causing a big upset because the dishes weren’t stacked the way you wanted or because your little one just got pen all over their last remaining clean T-shirt? It is in situations like these that I find a deep breath or two can really help me to regain perspective and decide whether this is actually something worth getting worked up about. I also now have a draft folder to save any texts and emails that I have typed when I am upset so that I can re-read them again later before sending. Once I have had the chance to calm down I often find that I either no longer want to send them at all or that I need to do some serious amending first!

4. Make good choices

Albert Einstein is quoted as saying that the definition of insanity is

doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Well, in that case, I must be completely and utterly crazy! One of many examples where I do this regularly is tidying up the boys toys. I do it daily (often several times throughout the day) and hope that tomorrow I won’t have to do it as many times but then get irritated when I do, inevitably, have to do it just as much (if not even more!) the very next day…..even though I know all too well that no sooner have I put the toys away than one of the boys comes in and undoes all my tidying in an instant. I am finally learning to just live with toys everywhere and wait until the end of the day for one tidy up. After all, ‘this too shall pass’ once the boys are a bit older….and who knows, I might even miss it? Now that really would be crazy!

5. Be grateful for all the good things in your life

When you are having ‘one of those days’ it’s so easy to focus only on the bad stuff and forget all the positives. In the end all that really matters is that you and those you care about are healthy and well but it’s so easy to lose sight of this when your day is filled with a long line of minor irritations.

And finally, if none of the above work, I have written a short ditty to help inject some humour in to those not-so-funny days….

Counting to ten

Counting to ten, does that ever work?

Oh ok, I’ll give it a go.

So one, two, three….am I still angry?

Hell yes, I feel fit to blow!

Four, five, six….apocalypse!

Feel better?! I don’t think so!!

Seven, eight, nine….now I’m dreaming of wine;

But wait, that might do the trick!

And with a big amen, it’s number ten.

Now let’s get the kids in bed double quick!

 

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